You'd think with social media being such a focus in our live's these days, that staying connected with friends would be easy. I hate talking on the phone, plain and simple, so social media is a Godsend to me. I can talk to people and be in people's lives from afar without enduring the awkward pauses on the phone or having the recipient endure my screaming children. I have the freedom to reply when I can or even when I want.
The problem is, that even with this readily available means of communication, I still am a horrible friend. I lack the deep friendships I once had. I find myself yearning for simple companionship. Yes I have a wonderful husband who is my best friend, but I'm a stay at home mom and he works, so I need something during the day to fill up my friendship cup.
I've taken a step back and really thought about what kind of friend that I am or that I would want for myself. For a reason unbeknownst to me, I have a hard time making, and keeping for that matter, friends.
I would love to just put it out there and ask, why aren't we friends anymore? What about me turns you away? Alas, I fear that would be more damaging to my soul than helpful in this matter. That is where the question, what kind of friend could I be that I would want to be friends with, comes into play?
Maybe I come on too strong to people? Maybe I'm too needy? Maybe I'm not needy enough? Maybe I put my kids and husband first too much? Maybe I'm selfish? Maybe I'm too opinionated? Maybe I lack depth? Maybe I wall myself off? Maybe I'm judgmental? Maybe I'm condescending? Maybe I'm not interesting enough? Maybe I'm too conservative? The list could go on and on...
Here are the qualities I'd like to find in myself when it comes to friendship:
-Caring
-Understanding
-Good listener
-Humorous
-Non-judgmental
-Open
-Empathetic
-Godly
The time has come to help myself make friends by being a better friend. What qualities do you look for in a good friend?
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